Raising a Child is Like Growing a Plant: THE CASE OF THE LATE BLOOMER

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I had the most amazing realization when I decided to pull out the plant which I thought is not growing anymore but lo and behold!

Ten months ago, I planted a young stem from my plant which was accidentally snapped from its main stem by my cat. You know cats, they do that always. So, I planted the broken stem in a pot, hoping but not expecting too much for it to grow. Days had passed but I don’t see any improvements in the stem. The same few leaves were there and not even one shoot is showing. Still, I watered it and gave it enough sunlight. Weeks and months had passed, still no improvements, the same few leaves were there. I thought of pulling it many times. Finally, I decided to pull it out after ten months of waiting thinking that It would not grow anymore. Still hoping that it had roots, I carefully dug the soil in which it was planted. When I was pulling it out, it’s kind of firmly rooted in the soil, I dug deeper and deeper, reaching my fingers down deeper into the pot until I finally pulled it off. To my amazement, the little stem had grown big and long roots deep down the soil. All this time, while the plant was not showing off outside, it had built strong roots deep down, it was growing deep.

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Now, I had an epiphany, the case of this plant can be compared to raising kids. Admit it or not, we want children which we can be proud of. Sometimes we compare our kids to other high achieving kids. We also wish that our children are like them, with advanced talents and skills. Sometimes children are like the plant in my story. Even if my plant does not show any growth, I continuously watered and nourished it. It felt good when finally finding out that it was growing deep and building strong roots. Some individuals are late bloomers because they are still growing deep inside first before showing off. Do not be dismayed when your child is not yet showing any special talents or skills, continue giving him the love of a family, the warmth of a home and an enriched environment where there are opportunities for growth and development.

So how do we make a late bloomer kid succeed in school? There is no perfect formula. When late bloomers find something that sparks their interest, they will pursue it. Late bloomer children rarely respond to external motivation, their motivation comes from within. They will pursue and persevere because they like what they are doing. What parents can do is to expose their children to various fields of studies, hobbies or skills.  Exposing them to different interests should start when they are still in preschool or grade school. Provide them with experiences that facilitate blooming. Late bloomers who find their calling in life varies from individual to individual. Raising a late bloomer is like planting an oak tree, it takes forever to see them grow strong and sturdy. The good news is that there are brain researches that say; the smartest individuals have brains that develop later. The late bloomer’s brain develops more slowly compared to normal brains because more development is happening in their brains, thus the delay. It may contradict the traditional belief but maturing late can serve a more useful function. If we do not respect the natural brain process of late bloomers and forced our children to mature this may cause more harm than good. This is evidenced by the study of one neurologist who concluded that brains who matured quickly do not developed fully. There is also a study that says that it is only until the age of twenty-five or later that the executive function of the brains matured

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Countless famous personalities were late bloomers that went down to history. Here are few of them; Albert Einstein, the author of the Theory of Relativity, Mc Donalds of the McDonalds food chain, Soichiro Honda of Honda Motors, J.K. Rowling the creator of Harry Potter Series, Harland Sanders of Kentucky Fried Chicken, Susan Boyle, a professional singer, Rich Kalgaard, publisher of Forbes Magazine, and many others.

We don’t say that achieving early in life is not good and that late bloomer becomes more successful or the other way around. We cannot control what nature has bestowed upon us. We can just accept them and value their differences. Consider having a late bloomer child as a gift you received in June which you can only open in December. So be patient!

SOURCES:

Healthline Parenthood: http://inthemindseyedyslexicrenaissance.blogspot.com/2010/01/late-bloomers-advantage.html

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